Journey Into Vulnerability: The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

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A very inspiring woman (lookin’ at you Jackie), eagerly/enthusiastically/totally/robustly recommended Brene Brown’s TED talk. And, now I’d love to share each one with those of you who like me, until very recently, had no idea who Brene Brown is.

I went home and immediately watched both of her TED talks on Vulnerability and Listening to Shame.

The next day I found myself at Indigo as part of my kids’ P.A.Day/Fun Day (we went to watch Coco afterwards, which ended up being awesome). We all left with a haul of books. My haul was Brene Brown’s The Gifts of Imperfection and Rising Strong.

I’m into the third chapter of The Gifts of Imperfection and will review it when I’m done…but I think you can already tell that I’m absolutely loving it. I’m feeling the fierce pull between gobble it up and go slow…take it in…a friend (who is a life coach, you can find her at Joanna Durkin) out in Alberta said she makes it a yearly read. And, I can see why.

Why Vulnerability?

I didn’t realize how damn frightening this word is for me until I started reading about it and began to feel so squirmy. The more I read and think and look at my life, it has become clear that I’ve been keeping vulnerability at bay because it means exposure.

The invitation to take a trip into my own vulnerability has been extended. And, I accept. Stay tuned for more on that topic.

Please use the links above to watch each of Brene Brown’s TED talks (about 20 minutes each). There are beautiful insights which I think we can all bring into practice with ourselves, our spouses, our children, our families, our students (for my teacher friends).

Who knows…it may spark your own vulnerability revolution.

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Stop! And Do This Right Now.

  1. Tell your spouse you love him/her
  2. Hug your children…squeeze them, get lost in their cheeks, dive into their necks and revel in their laughter
  3. Call your mom and dad – thank them. Ask about their day.
  4. If your parents are no longer living…say a quick prayer to them, tell them what they mean to you.
  5. Repeat 3 and/or 4 with your grandparents
  6. Reach out to your sibling(s)…let them feel how great it was to grow up with them
  7. Text your friends or send out a mass email to all of your friends letting them know they are the family you chose…
  8. Thank the universe, God, the goddess, for your life, your health, the health of those you love and all of the good things that surround you
  9. Smile and give yourself a hug
  10. Eat some chocolate

Because sometimes life reminds us in the most cruel of ways that it is short. That in an instant everything can change. It is fragile and fleeting. Nowhere on my list is there a reference to work or the bank account or the kind of car in the driveway.

Stripped down to the essentials, life is not as complicated as we make it. Lighten the load and truly embrace what is important. It is far too easy to forget and ultimately, it is all that matters when we need it most.

Go ahead. Try it. You’ll be glad you did.

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Wednesday Quotables: Love

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As a woman in her late thirties, love is about the breakfast my husband leaves ready for me in the morning before he goes to work because he knows I’ll be too busy with the kids to feed myself. Or my organizational help in the evenings once the kids are asleep and I yearn for my bed but know that he values my input on his projects. Love is not about the one time fall, it is about the continued falling and growing and living together.

My husband and I don’t do a big Valentine’s Day thing because it is our son’s birthday. Even though he’s an extremely private man, I’ll dedicate today’s post to him. We’ve been together for 13 years…married for almost 8…3 homes and 2 children later…here we are knowing that we’re in this together and we wouldn’t have it any other way.

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Happy Valentine’s Day readers! May your lives be full of the kind of love you need right now.

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Wednesday Quotables: Surrender

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This week’s quotatbles are all about surrender. Too often we find ourselves in challenging situations and we don’t know why and we wish we could wish ourselves out of them.  It is only once we are through those situations that we see why we had to live through them…and we learn that had we simply allowed ourselves to live through them, we probably would have had an easier time.

Surrendering is not an easy lesson to learn – nor is it easy to do because it requires trust.  (We can do next week’s quotables on trust.)  However, it is the most peaceful approach to all circumstances and surrendering actually helps you keep your sanity.

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from yogametaphysics.wordpress.com

Surrendering is a great way to show yourself compassion, love and trust. I love this quote because it reminds me to breathe. It is my way of reminding myself to surrender. Once I got over the fear of not being in control it actually brought me a huge relief!

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from zenstillness.com

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from shadowtext.net

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from wordsonimages.com

Surrendering teaches you about yourself.  It makes you get out of your own way and allow your path to unfold in ways you would have never imagined. It is pretty empowering to watch yourself grow and be the person you know you are.

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from motivationalquotesabout.com

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from femalefundamentals.com

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These three quotes go hand in hand…accept what is happening, no matter how terrible because it will end and inevitably you will come out stronger.  The process and the outcome will teach you things about yourself that you never imagined…you will blow yourself away with your strength! Also, isn’t it wonderful to know that the past can stay there? That your present is completely in your power to create as you wish?

I hope these quotes help you through the rest of the week. Right now I’m dealing with surrendering to this crazy, frigid cold and figuring out how to battle cabin fever! It’s all good.

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Wednesday Quotables: Friendship

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My little girl is 6 weeks old.  I am blissfully in love and happy.  However, these 6 weeks have also been difficult.  It has been 6 weeks since I’ve had an uninterrupted night of sleep, my hormones are just starting to settle down and I still wish and need to be present in the life of my four year old. Motherhood is glorious and challenging.

Luckily, I have an incredible support system.  My mother is my saviour.  And, my friends are precious.  I have received so much love and support from my mother and all of my friends that today’s quotables are all about the beauty of friendship.

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This quote reminds me of my dear friends from elementary school.  I met you at the tender age of 14…our children now play together!  Your friendship, love and support mean the world to me!

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ND friends!!!  When you befriend a colleague, you do it with caution and the knowledge that “work” friends come and go.  I am blessed because my “work” friends are now dear friends.  We try as much as possible to ban “shop talk” when we are together.  They make my work environment feel less like work and more like a daily opportunity to hang out with my friends.  Here’s to all the wine we’ve consumed and to all our “Wednesday Parties”.  You make me a better teacher, woman and friend.

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My mom and brother.  I could write an entire blog dedicated to them, their story, and how they inspire me.  I am lucky to have friends in my family.

Because the people we choose to have in our lives help to shape our lives and our experiences. When those people are people of quality our life is made all the better.

And lastly, this sums up today’s quotables on friendship:

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In person, via email, phone calls, messages and texts – friends make every experience in life rich, memorable and beautiful.  I hope today’s quotes inspire you to thank your friends!

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